I don’t care! Have you heard that before? Someone close to me has said these words over and over again about their relationship or lack of relationship with their father. Not caring wears us out. Not caring can control our lives, reduce our spirituality, ruin relationships, cause depression, and lead to alcohol and drug abuse.
According to Andy Stanley (http://yourmove.is/watch/future-family/4/), regardless of how bad your story is, you were born and created to care. He uses the analogy of a bungee cord and how we can live through our 20’s, our 30’s and when we hit about 45 and are in a different place in our lives that bungee cord snaps and takes you right back to the pain. Suddenly you are filled with emotion you haven’t felt in years. You are angry and short tempered; your family is like, whoa what happened to you? Your family thinks they are the reason you are treating them poorly but the real reason is because you have told yourself “I don’t care”.
No matter how bad the tension, drama or hurt is the internal battle to reconcile is worth fighting. If you are a Christian, there is no option to say “I don’t care”. The reason you can’t live with “I don’t care” is: for Christ’s loves compels us (2 Corinthians 5:14). This is the reason you need to be open to the idea of reconciliation, even if it goes nowhere, because Christ’s love compels us. Christ did for us something that was uncomfortable for him and now we need to do something for him that is uncomfortable for us. God removed every obstacle to reconciling with us, except us. So, the only thing that keeps us from reconciling that bad relationship is us. Think about it!!! YIKES! That is huge! We can’t blame the other person anymore!
As Christians, our lives are supposed to be a message to our friends, family and strangers that we are reconciled to God. This means, you can’t give up on your failing relationship until God gives up on you. Well, you know that isn’t going to happen so start the conversation, send a letter, open the door. Even if reconciliation doesn’t work in the other person it will work in you! It will become the center of God’s work in your life. No more excuses, set the table, open the door, or send the invitation today because Christ’s love compels us!
For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again. So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation—2 Corinthians 5:14-18
Marlene’s Spaghetti Sauce
This recipe came to me from a dear friend. I love the flavor. You can add browned meatballs after 30 minutes of cooking if you don’t want a vegetarian version.
2 T olive oil
1 medium onion, minced
5 cloves garlic, minced
2 T each fresh basil and parsley
1/4 c red wine
4 – 14 1/2 oz cans chopped tomatoes
1/4 c butter
1/4 c sugar
1/2 t dried thyme
1 t dried oregano
1/2 t basil
Salt and pepper
1. In a large heated pot, add the olive oil and onion and saute until soft. Add garlic, basil and parsley and cook for 1 minute
2. Add wine
3. Add tomatoes and bring to a boil
4. Add butter and sugar and stir until butter melts
5. Cover the top of the sauce with the dried herbs and salt and pepper to taste
6. Cook simmering on medium low heat for about 1 hour.