Yay, it’s Thursday:) My Thursday ladies have started a new book called, Like Dew Your Youth, by Eugene Peterson http://www.amazon.com/Like-Dew-Your-Youth-Teenager/dp/0802801161 This book is about how adolescence is a gift from God. After I chuckled through the introduction it was time to get more serious. Adolescence is a gift and that is how parents should approach this ever so wonderful time in our children’s lives.
Today’s chapter was “I’m Not Going to Church” Sound familiar? We all have our approach to the dreaded time when our kids say these words. Some parents think as long as their children live at home they go to church. Some use threats, “If you don’t go to church, you can’t go to Sue’s birthday party”. Some parents just give up the struggle. The constant excuses and complaining from their child are just too much and parents give in but are left having feelings of guilt or failure.
My approach has always been, “you know how much my faith means to me and out of respect for me and because you still live at home I need you to go Mass. I understand that my beliefs and level of faith will be different from yours, but 1 hour a week at Mass is not too much to ask. So try to take one thing out of Mass, pray quietly, or just sit and be still.” It’s one hour a week!
But what I love about this chapter is Eugene Peterson takes my approach one step further. He explains it’s great that kids are questioning their faith, but how can they make a mature decision about going to church when they don’t go to church. Hello, Duh!!! Peterson explains, “Wouldn’t it be more reasonable to take your thinking and feeling into the sanctuary each Sunday for the next few years and test it out there? If you stay home you don’t have anybody to argue with or test yourself against—-except your childhood memories. You are changing and learning very rapidly now; the church needs your new vision and experience.” He goes on to say “if you walk out of the room the possibilities for adult, responsible debate are over.”
This makes so much sense to me! No longer can I refuse to listen to heel dragging and excuses about going to church. If you are going through “I’m Not Going to Church!” remember:
1. To be thankful that another person is beginning to think about a relationship with God
2. If your adolescence is saying “no” that is the first step to saying “yes”
3. Now is the time to share your faith journey with your adolescence
I rejoiced with those who said to me, “Let us go to the house of the Lord.” Psalm 122:1
Toasted Almond and Coconut Quinoa Porridge
I love coconut! This is a yummy, hearty winter breakfast
1/2 cup sliced almonds, toasted
1 cup dried quinoa
1 cup water
1 1/2 cup full fat coconut milk, divided
3 tablespoons maple syrup
1/4 teaspoon sea salt
1 cinnamon stick (or 1 tsp cinnamon)
1/3 cup pitted dates, chopped into small pieces, garnish
Ground cinnamon, garnish
1. Rinse quinoa using a sieve until the water runs clear. Bring the quinoa, water, 1 cup coconut milk, maple syrup, sea salt, and cinnamon to boil. Reduce heat to a simmer. Let simmer until quinoa is fluffy and all liquid has absorbed (about 15-20 minutes). Turn off heat and fluff quinoa gently with a fork. Remove cinnamon stick
2. Divide quinoa into bowls, top with chopped dates, sliced almond, and drizzle 1-2 T of coconut milk and a sprinkle of cinnamon